Lie to my face


There has been studies into face reading as lie detector; Professor Ugail’s work at university of Bradford tries to use face reading technology for lie detector. And there are evidence that computer and camera are great ways to capture human facial recognition. We cannot fool the use of smart technology. Most of us who does not have the luxury of these technology and nor can we carry this around with us! How can we tell when someone is lying by reading their face?

You might be interested to read my articles on face-reading, face the inside out or changing face of confidence to better understand the importance of your face, your external mask. One thing that smart technology cannot decipher is our attempt to covet the face. We do this by wearing make-up, veil, burqa or plastic surgery. This make face reading extremely difficult. According to Dr. Leanne ten Brinke, we have an innate pre-set instinct to detecting lies, we are our own lie detector. Providing of cause you have already established the person’s normal baseline behaviour in social settings, then it’s easier to pick up their uncharacteristic expressions, body language cluster (such as hair twirling, fidgeting, sway and body rocking) or attitude to conversation. A baseline is the neutral threshold which a person is at ease and not lying – inquire about subject you know they cannot possibly lie about such as the present weather condition or something that they have no reason to lie about.  You may already know some of the signs of lying. You may have already seen the face of a liar. Keep a close eye!

Looking at the head; watch for the positioning or the sudden head tilt or jerk in relation to being questioned. Watch for inconsistency of the head nods, bows or shakes that is different to the use of verbal language being expressed.

Forehead – Look for beads of sweat or signs of nervousness on the forehead. Look out for signs of throbbing as the vein pulses on the forehead, as well as crease lines on the forehead. Look for the eyebrows pulled together closer as the person is anxious about the lies. Plus any signs of scratching of the temple suggests, the liar is thinking about what to say.

Eyes – If the person is unable to look you in the eye in response to your questions, this is a sure sign of lies being concealed. As well as prolong and exaggerated eye contact used to deter reader into the false story. Rapid or lack of blinking are conscious signs to manipulate the listener. A normal person, who is not lying, will shift their gaze regularly exploring their surroundings. Look closely at the micro-expression quickly flashes in the eyes, in a fraction of a second, to establish the person’s true emotion. Monitor the eye direction, as the person is looking up towards the left – according to NLP is Visual Construct, demonstrating that the person is constructing the story. Eye movements, looking up toward the right – shows Visual Recalls – the person is not lying when remembering the story. Eyes show emotions watch for this carefully.

Nose – Just as in ‘Pinocchio’, watch the twitching and nose itching. Look at nose concealing and nose rubbing, as well as signs of frequently touching, rubbing or stroking the nose. They are all signs of lying.

Mouth – Watch for any signs to conceal, cover, and hide the mouth when the person is responding, as well as covering other areas of the body.  Watch for frequent signs of stuttering, swallowing, coughing or frequently clearing their throat are also sure signs of lie. Just as biting of nails; the liar’s body increase production of adrenaline, gets their saliva pumping and this creates none, resulting in dryness to the throat and mouth, making it difficult to swallow. While the saliva is surging, the liar might be gulping it down quickly and frequently. See how the lips don’t lie. Look at how the lips curl up, lips pressing or lips biting, are sure signs of stress generated in the limbic system.

Jaw – Look for movement in the jawline as the liar move back and forth, a movement to stimulate the salivary glands in the back of the throat. This movement is an attempt to moisten their dry throats due the fight-or-flight response.

Speech & Language – Listen out for the change of tonality and volume when the person is speaking. High pitch or quivering voice shows sign of distress, in defending the lies. Too long silences, absent or responses are signs of lies being invented. Pay attention to the use of language and the incongruity in face, the use of repeated words, words such as ‘to be honest’, ‘to be truthful’ or ‘honestly’ are signs of lies. Listen out for distraction in the story as the liar jump to a different story in mid-sentence.

However, it is not just the face that lies. The body can lie too and watch out for distraction in the hands, especially from those dramatics who are animated and creative in their explanation of their web of lies.

Try it for yourself, read those around you and see who is lying to you.

Individuality and Homosexuality


What I learned I share. In my work at TVPS, I have recently become more aware of the prejudices within homosexuality and how much of it affect people. I have been unaware at the extent of the secrecy of homosexuality in individual cases. I, myself, accept that homosexuals as normal individuals who want to belong to a normal society. Maybe, my acceptance come from my ethnic background in Thailand, where we accept their existence in society.

In brief, homosexuality is a sexual orientation of a person of the same sexual gender as their own. It is believed that homosexuals are born that way, with biological tendencies. In today’s societies, although it is more acceptable for homosexuals to be opened about their sexuality, individuals still experience resistance in day-to-day life. Some people still cannot accept why a person is homosexual and often regard them on the same brush as those with mental health. The reason for this stigma comes from professionals, Freud included, who first thought that homosexuality was the disorders of the mind. Yes, professionals do get it wrong sometime. I don’t believe that homosexuality is a mental disorder or illness and at times it was considered by many professionals as so. It was officially declassified in the DSM-II in 1987 and professionals begin to have acceptance that biological factors are the driving force behind their sexual preferences and orientations.

I’m not here to argue for homosexuality per se, this article is to address the non-acceptance of homosexuality in society and how this affect individual lives, and the lives of those around them. I think homosexuality is a sexual preference of an individual toward someone of the same sex or gender. Read more on homosexual psychology here.

Individuals who had experienced prejudices in their daily lives know how difficult it is to live with it. Now imagine the individual with homosexual tendencies. Imagine the prejudice even though society is more accepting. There are some individuals who cannot accept individual differences. Why this is hard to accept the phenomenon of this pathological model of  homosexuality? Stigma and discrimination against homosexuality have always been around, society just chose to ignore it. Prejudice will exist in most society where there are differences to social norm expectations, where common humanity is shared. Individuals who do not fit into the societal expectation, becoming an outcast and rebel against what is normal, for these people, egalitarian society does not exist. It is also difficult to resist the social conditioning of the media porn industry that promote girls-on girls action.

Individuals who are confused about their gender or sexuality may be pressured to conform to social norm guideline in relationship formation, forcing them to seek a wife, have children, raise a family, as evolution dictate. For these individuals, suppressing their homosexual preferences can be like putting a lid over a boiling cauldron. As with the universal law, the pot will eventually boiled over. It is a matter of time that the energy is heated up. These people question the concepts of conformity and seek to express themselves through self-exploration. For some people who haven’t been able to identify their preferences or suppresses their preferences, this enlightened exploration can lead to a great relief. This discovery is a soul-soothing expression of one own sexual preferences. Isn’t this what individuality is all about? Is this not what each and every one of us aspire to being? To being human.

Individuality is a state of being, a state of uniqueness and self-acceptance. It is about being who you are, knowing who you want to be and where to go. Individuality disregard race, colour, age, gender, sexual orientation and religion and many other factors. Individuality is about whatever you want it to be. It is about whoever you choose to be and however you want to live.

My take on homosexuality is acceptance. Accept the person in front of you as a unique individual human being that they are. Accept yourself for accepting others around you.

However, if you find it hard to accept others and especially difficult to accept someone with homosexuality tendencies, perhaps you may to explore your own individuality for self-awareness through counselling. Contact me and see how I can help.